Resting in Motherhood

Self-Love for Mothers

It's hard to be a mother today. There is the pressure, mainly from other mums and social media, to be a perfect mother, prefect women as well as perfect working woman. To be there for your children, for your partner, to have successfull job, to have a tidy house, to do sports, to look good etc. These kind of outer expectations become the inner expectations, which trigger our inner critic. And our true self tries to hide, feeling shame and not good enough.

 

When we feel stressed and not good enough, one typical reaction is - we try to do more! We try harder. We become more active, try to manage more things from the to-list. We chase the feeling of satisfaction (and yes, our brains can give us that rewarding feeling) when we achieve what we wanted. But by doing more, our stress level does not really decrease. After more, there is always more of the more. 

Compassion focused therapy (by Paul Gilbert) teaches about three circuits in our brain:

  1. Threat: checks for dangers and coping with it
  2. Drive: mobilizes our powers to do something, motivating, seeking resources, rewarding
  3. Soothing: reassuring, relaxing, feeling safe and connected

Often we as mothers run between (1) and (2), which is also the general life style nowadays. But there is no healing without the part (3). This is also the part where compassion and self-compassion make impact on our wellbeing. 

Mothers are crossing their boundaries not only because of the stress given by the (internalized) outside expectations. Their motivation is also love. For mother, her child is always more important than her own wellbeing. There is sacredness in this sacrifice, as it is the way of heart and love. We go over our boundaries for things, which for us have an immense value. This also makes us grow out of our conformity and makes us realize that we are bigger than we used to think. It is not always easy, but it purifies the heart and weakens self-centredness, which is a big cause of ignorance, separation, war. As mothers, we ourselves are the filed of compassion for our children, where they can arrive and relax. We just need to widen that field towards ourselves. We do not become more egoistic when we start taking care of ourselves - no, we enlarge the capacity for compassion by including ourselves as well. When the motivation for doing so comes out of self-love and love for the world, it gives deep and steady roots to our self-care, because it becomes a part of our values.

 

 

In this workshop we will:

  • Develop and embody our personal inner care-taker, that is based on self-compassion
  • Practice reassuring and connectedness with ourselves
  • Very practically exercise how to invoke the presence of self-compassion in the midst of a stressed situation
  • Practice to aknowledge our needs when there is hardly time for it (and see that even a short remembrance makes wonders!)
  • Practice calm mothering in the middle of chaos, while we witness the flow of life being what it is
  • Embody our own personal style of mothering, with awareness of its sacredness

The goal of this workshop is to transform:

  • self-doubt into self-trust
  • overwhelm into resting pause and nourishment
  • self-criticizm into self-love and self-compassion
  • burn-out and pure functioning into sacredness of mothering

Workshops in person are always held in tune with Covid-19 regulations.
If a workshop in person is not possible, it will be held as a live webinar on the same date. 
Small group with max. 6 participants allows deep work and space for each personal process and individual feedback.

 

Date: Sunday, date and location coming soon
Time
: 11:00 - 18:00 Uhr incl. lunchbreak

Price: 119 € (incl. VAT)
Discount is possible on request. In each workshop there is one place reserved for a "scholarship" - you only pay half price. Please apply per email at mail@ivasoulwork.com and include a letter with your personal situation and motivation.

For all further questions and information about the money back guarantee etc. please visit the FAQ page. 

 

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions: 0172-9976723 or mail@ivasoulwork.com.


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